Breaking Free Of Things That Weigh Us Down Can Be Life Changing!

October 20, 2020

Life takes many twists and turns and along the way we tend to accumulate stuff. The past 8 months have been taxing for many of us and this can lead to us feeling weighed down. The process of clearing out and losing our unwanted stuff both physical and emotionally can be a very worthwhile process to undertake. Spring is the perfect time to undertake this process which can help us re-group, re-prioritise and re-invent ourselves.

Abigail Brenner, M.D., is a psychiatrist and shared her tips in an article published online on Psychology Today. 

1.) De-clutter your living space.

  • Get rid of anything you no longer need. Here’s the rule of thumb: If you haven’t worn it (or used it) for two years, out it goes. Donate clothing and household items that are in reasonably good condition to an organisation or charity and books to your local library or hospital.
  • Clear out kitchen cabinets of items that have beenlying around since you can’t remember when or whose expiration date has long passed. Dispose of medications and first aid products beyond their expiration date.

2.) Clear out mental and emotional clutter.

When we think of renewal we often think of rebirth; something old dies and something new is born. Why not use this season of renewal as a reminder to get rid of things that are weighing you down and sapping your energy?

  • Allow yourself to let go of the past to make room for new things to come into your life.
  • Commit to making decisions you’ve been putting off.
  • Challenge limiting beliefs about yourself and about how things should be.
  • Think positively. Recent research has shown that we can actually change the circuitry of our brains. When something negative comes up pair it with something positive and stay with that feeling.

3.) Start a Practice

A new discipline will ensure that you invite mindfulness into your life. A daily practice affords you a “time-out” from your everyday routine. This is a gift to yourself; a promise to honour who you are.

  • spiritualpractice such as yoga, meditation, or chi gong is easy to find almost anywhere and relatively affordable.
  • Another practice that you can do on your own is researching and reading sacred texts from many cultures and traditions. Read them with an eye on universal themes - those things that connect all of us.
  • Walking is a wonderful way to help your body while clearing your mind. Walk instead of drive. Use the stairs instead of the elevator. And remember to change your route! We all are so programmed to do the same routine every day. Change the scenery, change your perspective!

4.) Begin something brand new.

Focus on spring as a time of new beginnings and resolve to do something you’ve always wanted to do but never felt you had the time.

  • Assess your health. Maybe it’s time to begin taking care of yourself? It’s far better to change the way you live, beginning now, instead of waiting for things to get out of your control. Create an inventory of your health including diet, exercise, genetics, and stress Begin slowly, one change at a time, eventually incorporating others.
  • Explore yourcreativity. Learn a new language, take piano lessons, awaken the diva within, take a computer class, or go back to school. It’s never too late to fulfil a dream.
  • Volunteer your time. Teach reading to those who want to learn, become a mentor, or help clean up your community; there are so many ways to give of yourself.

5.) Spend time outdoors.

  • Plant a garden. If you have no outdoor space, plant a herb garden in your kitchen or plant pots of flowers to bring the outside into your home.
  • Plant a tree with your child and watch it grow together.
  • Build a birdhouse with your child and watch the inhabitants come and go from year to year. This provides a connection to the earth and continuity in life.

6.) Take a trip.

This is something to look forward to annually, especially if you live in a place that experiences the extremes of winter. These could include:

  • A personal retreat away or a weekend that you give to yourself every year to reflect on your life, the past year, and what new things you may want to incorporate into your life moving forward.
  • A family reunion, to meet extended family at different destinations each year, allows people to stay connected and affords a sense of belonging and continuity for younger family members.
  • A family vacation can do the same thing for the immediate members of your family. Camping, hiking, or fishing, visiting an historic site, or a part of the country that’s very different from your own can help family members bond and reconnect from their busy, daily lives.

7.) Simplify your life.

  • Slow down. As life moves so quickly, surrounding us with the constant stimulation of the information stream, we need to find a way to quiet our minds and make quality time for ourselves.
  • “Downshift”, or streamline your life however you can to “upshift” the overall quality of your life. Reorganise your highest priorities and re-evaluate your commitments. What do you value most in your life? How much quality time do you spend with the people and the things you care about the most? What is the best way to use your time to create the life you want to have?

Hopefully, these seven rituals for renewal will set you on course for a life that is not only fulfilling and meaningful - but fully your own.

– Psychology Today